at home labor and natural birth story

"I believe the choice to become a mother is the choice to become one  of the greatest spiritual teachers there is."
- Oprah Winfrey

It's been 3 months since I gave birth. As I'm nearing the end of the dreaded 4th trimester, I wanted to share this experience as one I will never forget. I gave birth to a lovely baby girl on September 6th at the Atlanta Birth Center - hello full moon baby! There are so many things I remember that it tops my first birthing experience in regards to it being a lot quicker and seamlessly easier to go through.


I had been experiencing a lot of lower right hip pain. When you have a toddler that wants to always play, pull you up and down the stairs, and be carried close in your arms, you definitely feel it. Getting a prenatal massage helped me a bit. I didn't complain much because I wanted to make sure he felt as loved as possible. It being our last few days together with just he and I was bittersweet.

During this pregnancy, there were symptoms I had that I didn't have with my first born. From nausea to constipation to the hip pain. I knew she was close to arriving as my belly continued to feel as though it wanted to live right between my legs. Not to mention the Braxton-Hicks contractions that began to come more throughout the day.


It was a long morning. I kept waking up on and off, tossing and turning due to what I thought were just more random BH contractions. Finally, a little after 3AM, I woke up and rushed to the bathroom feeling as though I had to (explicit). lol - I was feeling constipated. Ugh! I attempted to go back to bed but those contractions kept coming and making it slightly uncomfortable to rest.

For the next few hours, I was up pacing back and forth, up and down the stairs trying to allow my body to do what it needed to. I still just thought "oh, it's just fake contractions, it'll pass." Around 5AM, I started timing them. Then comes 6AM and by then, they were beginning to come back to back. Since I wanted to birth naturally, I made use of breathing techniques, movement, and my beloved birthing ball to get me through the contractions. There was no pain, just what felt like intense period cramps that I knew wouldn't kill me.

Once they started to time 3-5 minutes apart, I gave bae a call and basically said, "sooo, I think today is the day." He went to rent a bigger car while I continued to breathe, bounce, and swirl through the feels. I also called my midwife to let her know what was going on and she recommended a hot shower and if possible, rest. I knew rest was not going to happen. My son woke up and while laboring, I went about making sure he was fed, started packing my bag, and prepped my shower. I ended up in my bedroom, on all fours breathing and vocalizing moans through several contractions coming 2-3 minutes apart.

Once daddy arrived, he went to help finish packing as I made my way to the shower. The shower was great. Things were definitely picking up because I was now moaning more than breathing through at this stage. He helped me out of the shower and we were getting ready to make a less than 2 hour drive to Atlanta. While he filled the car, I was trying to remember the important stuff. I had about 4-6 contractions I had to stop for as I made it from my bedroom to the staircase to the living room couch.

It was around 11ish when we left. I was on my knees, laboring in the back of the car while my toddler paid me no mind. The nerve. My midwife called maybe 3 times during the ride to make sure I was okay and getting close. I was a champ, knocking out those contractions like it was nothing. I was also pretty sure I had dilated to 8-9 centimeters. We arrived at the birth center close to 1PM. The midwives were outside waiting for me and were like, "you go girl! Laboring like this."

at home labor and natural birth story


After arriving, I was triaged. I was already at 9 centimeters. Contractions kept coming as one of the midwives tried checking me out and getting me squared away. I was suppose to be treated with antibiotics for BStrep but baby girl said hell to the no, she was coming and coming fast. I got on the bed, on all fours, of course and started to push. LET ME TELL YA... THE "RING OF FIRE" WAS NOT WHAT I EXPECTED. It didn't feel like agony or anything. Just a short period of time where I told my unborn kid hurry it up already.

After her head was freed, the rest was just smooth sailing then she slid right on out - lol. Thus my little one was finally here... 10 days early and all. According to Western Astrology, I have a Virgo baby. According to the more accurate 13 Astrology, she's a fierce Leo. She literally arrived 20 minutes after we made it to the birthing center. That was fast. I also kept my placenta.

We all were able to relax afterwards. Since I was positive for BStrep, I was given a shot in the thigh after delivery and for the next few hours, we were both checked on every few hours. Delivering in a birth center has its perks. I was able to leave that night/super early morning once some paperwork and what not was taken care of.

Overall, this experience was definitely not what I expected. When most people hear that you plan to birth unmedicated, they look at you crazy and give all kinds of scare tactics. The nurses I had during my first birthing experience definitely laughed at me for even thinking that. I was glad to have the support and awesome midwife staff that I did this go around. Everyone's pain threshold is different i guess. I'd definitely do it all over again, changing nothing.

at home labor and natural birth story
My toddler decided to fall asleep in my arms while I tried to nurse, He had a long morning. // Still taking it all in. 

at home labor and natural birth story
After baby decided to poop on me (hooray initiation, lol) - the midwife assistants gave her first clean-up.

at home labor and natural birth story
Daddy with his baby girl. First born so he was basking in this  new reality. 

I've experienced both sides of birthing - medicated and not and doing so naturally for me, was pretty empowering. If you want to learn of my experience with the Atlanta Birth Center, I'll be sure to share along with the process of becoming a patient there. I'll also share what I did with my placenta.

What was your birthing experience(s) like? How were they different and are you team epidural or nah?

Hey! Congrats mama on the pending arrival of your little bundle of joy. If you're reading this, it's likely that you're at the point where you may be considering if you plan to breastfeed your baby or not. I may be biased but I've always been a fan of liquid gold for fresh out the womb little ones for various reasons - one being that I'm a crunchy mommy + I enjoy the road less traveled. However, if you also feel you may not breastfeed, IT IS OKAY! There can be many reasons why a woman chooses to not breastfeed as well. One good reason...

Well, for most of us it does in the first couple of weeks. Teehee. 

Other than that, with baby comes LOTS of changes within and outside of bodies. Thumbs up for bigger boobs though, right? If you're planning to breastfeed for the "recommended" 6 months to a year or if you plan to do so exclusively, here are 6 things you'll need to know - or better yet, expect.


... in the beginning. No one ever told me this when I had my first born. Then again, it may also not hurt you - it depends, I'm sure. But for most new moms, once our "real milk" begins to come in a few days after baby is born, you should prepare for some engorgement. No woman enjoys pain but the things we do for our babies... 

Yes, your boobs will feel full, swollen, and with a newborn sucking on your bosom, a terrible latch along with other things can create a disaster. From sore boobs to cracked and hurting nipples. Ouch! I'll be the first to say that I don't remember having this pain with my first kid but with my newborn daughter... O M G! I literally have to re-learn how to breastfeed because of the pain I've experienced. After week 2, for many of us - it'll get better. Like they say, "you gotta push through it - if you can."


With cracked and hurting nipples, comes the need to get them healing. You'll hear time and time again that you should continue to feed through the pain. After all baby still has to learn how to properly latch on without hurting you. Practice makes perfect. For some women, it's just not worth it and that's totally understandable. Some mamas try while using nipple shields. You could also pump instead of putting baby to breast for a short time to encourage healing. 

If you want, nipple creams such as what hospitals give can be used but there is nothing better than freebies - your own breastmilk. You can express some of your own milk to apply to your nipples to get them back to normal. Almond or olive oil are good too. 


Don't worry - only do this in the comfort of your own home if you choose. When breastfeeding, you will be partially naked a lot of the time. In my opinion, it's better this way because you never know with your breastfed baby - they could eat around the clock! 

Invest in tank tops and comfy nursing bras too. Those will be your new best friends. Specifically because they will have detachable straps and such to make accessing the boob much easier without you having to destroy your good non-nursing bras. I'm loving these.


So, there seems to be some mommy who-can-pump-the-most-milk cult going on. I've seen quite a few women be obsessed with pumping huge supplies of milk to store and show-off. Don't be that mom. Then again, there are also women concerned with whether they have enough milk for their baby. To me, what you produce is more than enough (unless you're not caring for yourself properly and drying up). 

I think it's great to be able to breastfeed but to also be able to pump milk when needed for days where you want to get away for a few hours and interact with actual adults or allow daddy to do some extra bonding through bottle feeding. If your insurance won't cover a pump, this double, electric pump has been the bees knees for me and doesn't break the bank either! 


It's quite obvious, okay. You want to make sure you're taking care of yourself too. Drink PLENTY of water and always be sure to eat. I drank a lot of water during my pregnancy but slowed down after baby arrived so I had to fix that feeling of dehydration quick. 

You can feel a bit woosy after giving away so much to feed baby so keep hydrated at all times and your belly satisfied, even if you choose to eat one big meal a day and snack in between. 


Don't be ashamed to breastfeed in public. You'll be surprised at how quick you end up not caring what others think when you find yourself in a situation where you either forgot a bottle or baby refuses to wait. Do what makes you comfortable though, so although your nipple may be free, it's okay to cover up if you wish. 

I would find it quite rejuvenating to breastfeed in public without a cover-up most times. No one would be foolish enough to say something out of line to your face, right? If they are, this just gives you a great opportunity to burn off some good old post baby stress with shutting them up.

If you're in the market for finding affordable eyewear, then Firmoo Online Optical Store is the place to be. Firmoo is an online optical retailer offering prescription and non-prescription eyewear for men, women, and children. They have super chic and classic styles starting as low as $19 and nothing over $39. Now compared to most optical stores, this is a steal for anyone not wanting to donate a kidney for a pair of good-looking frames!

I love Firmoo for many reasons. They have new styles everyday, 90 day warranties, and a 30 day refund/exchange policy in place. Any eyewear lover is sure to find a style they love on their website - whether you're rocking a look for fun or as a staple wardrobe + accessories piece. 

I reached out to Firmoo recently regarding a quick collaboration recently. Not only did I want to reconnect with them as a brand but I also wanted to share some insight into what they offer by aiming for trends I've noticed. As of late, clear frames seem to be the GOAT. 

I actually find clear frames quite attractive. Due to my love for minimal and easy breezy aesthetic, my choice of eyewear just fits what I'm all about. Out of all available options, this style stole my attention. I'm rocking style #S1416 Medium in C6 - clear. Last I checked, it's also available in black and tortoise. 

Now, the great thing about Firmoo is that you can easily customize your style of frames. Mines are straight-forward with no prescription but if desired, you can opt for prescription lens, bifocals, etc. You can even choose the thickness of your frames or lens color. I will likely need a prescription lens so once I see an optometrist, I'll take these babies to get the lens replaced.

If you're really fancy, you can also choose to upgrade your packaging and eyewear accessories if you don't want the standard packaging shown above. Only if you're really fancy...

If you're like me and love a good promotion, they currently have a BOGO going on so hop on it if you're in the market for something new to dress your face. They also have several promo codes available on their site so you can actually choose what you'd like to take advantage of. I surely plan to. 

minimal makeup collection for natural beauty neoshaloves

This post has been a long time coming. Outside of holistic beauty tricks, I try to make sure my makeup purchases are always cruelty-free and vegan if I'm lucky. For starters, my makeup collection NEVER use to be this small. I was someone who once loved spending money on clothes, shoes, accessories, and makeup.

Like seriously, I hoarded some of everything!

A few years ago when I was heavy into purchasing various makeup and beauty products, I literally had a collection that could have me looking like a legit MUA. This was before I had kids, of course.

After becoming a mom, I really just wanted to purge and get rid of the overwhelm I felt when going through piles of my things. So, I got rid of a lot, including makeup over the years - hence, my love for the more minimal and simple things in life now. I love having the more natural look and glow. Keep it simple.

Not only does my keep it simple mantra really reflect how I purchase and collect things, everything I have now all merge with each other. From a specific set of colors in my wardrobe to my jewelry to my makeup. I stick to the basics, which allows me to not have to worry about whether I have clothes to wear that I won't have to take hours piecing together alongside going through an entire forever makeup application, and so forth.

Looking back now on the amount of money I spent and wasted - I'm glad I grew out of that phase entirely because.... ridiculous. Let's get into what I use now.

minimal makeup collection for natural beauty neoshaloves

I don't wear makeup often at all but when I do it's for things such as events, photos, my birthday, or date nights. Any other day, it's au natural baby! I always say there's no point in wearing makeup if your skincare routine doesn't exist - I definitely like to make sure my skin is cared for properly before, during, and after. 

Moisture is my personal friend so I make sure to moisturize and prep my face before using makeup. I'm a fan of the Black Radiance BB creams so that is all I use to lightly apply to my face along with a concealer that I mostly use for my under-eyes and eyelids.  

• Black Radiance BB Cream - 8917 Cafe (or 8921 Coffee Glaze), whichever is available.
• L.A Colors Pro Conceal HD Concealer - GC984 Toffee

minimal makeup collection for natural beauty neoshaloves

I own three small and compact makeup palettes these days but this one is my go-to every single time. All the colors reflect the taste of my wardrobe and love for neutrals. I usually rock browns and golds on my eyes. I don't use a primer on my eyes - only the LA Colors concealer. My liner of choice has been a liquid liner as of late. When I have more time, I may use my cream liner and angled brush to get my wing on - both in the color black.

My other two palettes feature one with 5 colors on the smoky + shimmery side (blacks, silvers, coppers, etc) and the other features 4 more "colorful" shades (Indigo, Red, Deep Purple, and Magenta Pink)...just for when I'm feeling fun and wanting to play with my look.

• Coastal Scents Go Palette - Cairo
• Coastal Scents Liquid Eyeliner - Jet

minimal makeup collection for natural beauty neoshaloves

My favorite part of wearing makeup when I do - lip color. I am head over heels with matte lips. I own three matte liquid lip colors that I love - the red being my ultimate go-to usually for just a pop of color. I have a color for a different type of look I go for - sultry, vamped, and laid back. Make sure you prep those lips and make sure they're nice and smooth before rocking a matte lip - or any lip color for that matter. 

Coloured Raine Cosmetics - Cherry Blossom
Coloured Raine Cosmetics - Roulette
Coloured Raine Cosmetics - Mars

Of course I have tools - one set of makeup brushes, my favorite mascara, and even a finishing spray. That's the bulk of it, literally. 


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